What Kind Of Mom Are You?

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I’m the kind of mom – that doesn’t always look put together. Sometimes I forget to brush my hair as I rush out of the house to make sure my daughter makes it to gymnastics on time.

I sit alone, as I watch her run and somersault. Another group of moms sits near me, all wearing leggings and makeup, looking like they just came from the gym – but I know, these clothes are just comfortable and popular among the mom crowd. I’m wearing the same shirt I wore yesterday (eek!).

I won’t interject myself in the conversation, but I will smile and acknowledge them with a hello. If they want to talk I will be friendly and reciprocate, otherwise I am fine focusing on my toddler who is also watching her sister run and somersault.

I’m the kind of mom that lives on coffee. I drink a few cups in the morning (more like chug the first cup), don’t bother to eat breakfast, and by the time I think about eating it’s already 2 PM. So what do I do? Heat up another cup of coffee.

I’m the kind of mom that leaves the TV on all the time. I don’t watch TV during the day, but I enjoy the background noise. It makes me feel less alone. My kids don’t always pay attention to the TV either, sometimes it’s on but they are busy playing with Legos or playdoh. My kids also have ipads. Judge away.

I’m the kind of mom that feeds her kids chicken nuggets and macaroni and cheese for lunch. I do cook sometimes, and I offer vegetables at dinner, but let’s be honest, kids know what they like and it’s not always worth the fight to force feed them something they don’t want. It’s also about time and convenience. And my sanity.

I’m the kind of mom that puts off the laundry, but will gladly do the dishes and take out the trash every day. I also vacuum multiple times a day. I feel like there is always something to do and not enough time between the kids and the house, but I realize I am only one person and cannot do everything. If you come over to my house I worry you will judge me because it is not as clean or as stylish as I would like it to be, but I will invite you over, nonetheless.

I’m the kind of mom that makes time for herself. I am at every mom’s night out. I take time during the day to try and write or research something new I am interested in. When my husband gets home from work I take a bath or try to get some alone time. I don’t feel guilty for these things, I think they are necessary.

I’m the kind of mom that struggles with anxiety and sometimes just doesn’t have the energy to be social. I may flake on a play date, but know that I will show up when it’s important. If you need someone to watch your kid because you have no one else or an appointment you cannot miss, call me and I will gladly show up for you. I care about the important things.

I’m the kind of mom that you want as a friend. I listen. I encourage. I can keep a secret. I’m not afraid to share the challenging parts of life and motherhood. I’m not afraid to show my human side. I will admit when I’m wrong.

I’m the kind of mom that loves her children and only wants the best for them. I may not always look perfect or know the right thing to say. I may not be super health conscious and screen time restrictive. But I encourage my children to be kind. I encourage them to read books, to color and create. I take them to the park, to the zoo, the beach, to children’s museums, and to sports events. I try to expand their horizons and give them experiences instead of things. I love them with all my heart and they will always have my support.

What kind of mom are you?

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7 comments on “What Kind Of Mom Are You?”

  1. Lovely post! You sound like the kind of mom I’d love to have coffee with. ☕️

    I think I’m 2 moms if I’m honest. When I was a young mom my kids ate everything organic, healthy and sugar free. TV was saved for weekends and video games were also restricted. The older 3 had good routines around naps and bedtime. I was on every PTA committee and didn’t know what “me time” meant. I couldn’t say no and ran myself ragged trying to be everything to everyone. Until I couldn’t anymore.

    It has taken me a long time to find the balance you seem to naturally embrace. As an older mom I’m far more relaxed. My older kids accuse me of parenting their baby brother differently. It’s true. He flips the TV on and off whenever he wants. I’d live in my pjs if I could and my hair is usually in a messy ponytail. The house is clean enough but far from spotless. I don’t judge myself or others anymore. I no longer feel guilty for setting boundaries and having needs of my own. If that makes me less of a mom in some people’s eyes, so what. Happy mom, happy home as the saying goes.😊

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    1. You learn as you grow! I am definitely more laid back with my third than I started off with my first. I totally understand what you mean. I’m glad you have found that balance and moderation with your kids now.

      Thank you for your kind words 🙂

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      1. There are 19 years between my oldest and youngest. He’d already left home when his brother was born. My oldest is very conscientious and a bit of a perfectionist. We’ll see how the little one turns out… I don’t think there’s really any right or wrong way once they’re loved.

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  2. I meant to comment a week ago, but the week was crazy:). I think you do not need to be apologetic about anything you are doing. I am a firm believer in the fact that a mother’s calmness and happiness are the most important for a child. And that every mom should do what SHE feels comfortable. Granted, implementing this rule with no limits might lead to some horrible parenting practices, but still. Forcing yourself to do what others think is right is never good. (I have a different list of important/unimportant things than you, but my is also not along the perfect mom lines:))

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