With the holiday season fast approaching we are reaching the time when we either visit our families for Thanksgiving, or – if you are hosting – they come to you. For some people this is a time to look forward too. Others dread it and suffer massive anxiety at the thought of spending time with their in-laws.
Fortunately, I love my husband’s family. In fact, I consider them my family too. I love to visit them and when they come to visit us. We live far apart and so the time we share is always short and sweet, but the holidays with them are something I anticipate every year.
But recently – and to get to the point of this post – I was on Instagram and a new mom was complaining about her mother-in-law and how she was so livid because she felt disrespected by her not following ‘her rules’. I continued reading and found that the issue she was massively upset over was that she didn’t want her mother-in-law kissing the baby.
This is the part where I began to roll my eyes and chalk it up to her just being young, sensitive, and it being her first baby. This was not a newborn baby. And how incredibly silly and selfish to demand that a grandma cannot kiss her grandchild?
Let grandparents kiss and hold their grandchildren. Let them take them places and experience new things with them. Let them feed them whatever the hell they want (barring any food allergies obviously). Are they taking them to get piercings and tattoos? Then maybe you can complain.
I think we need to learn to pick our battles. We need to remember what is truly important and what is ridiculous. If you are a woman who has a mother-in-law that adores your children and treats them with nothing but kindness and love, then I don’t want to hear you complain. You should appreciate the good thing you have. There are some women that truly do have monsters-in-law, I’m not disputing that. But there is much more serious crap to get upset about than a loving gesture to your child.
We as moms can be very protective of our children, but there is such a thing as being too protective. The grandparents, the uncles, the aunts, the cousins – that our children have in their lives – are a blessing. Let them love and enjoy your kids. Don’t get hung up on parenting ‘rules’. Especially during the holiday season.
With that being said I hope you all go into this holiday season being open minded and willing to put aside whatever anxieties or hang-ups you have and just enjoy the time with your children and families.