I see you there. You’re in the grocery store desperately trying to push a shopping cart while also wrestling with a screaming toddler. I see the tired haze in your eyes. I feel your anxiety. I see you at the park when your child won’t share or he’s throwing sand at other kids.
For all you moms juggling one, two, maybe even three kids or more and grappling with how to teach your kids social skills, how to listen, how to share, dealing with potty training, and temper tantrums – I feel your frustration and I see the defeat in your eyes.
I want to give you a hug and tell you it’s going to be alright. I want to tell you I’m not judging you. I’ve been where you are – deep in the trenches. It’s a place full of unrelenting work with little reward to be seen. It’s full of wondering if you are doing anything right and also mom guilt. It feels like it will never end. But I promise you – it does.
One day without realizing it, you will notice that your kids have grown up. What felt like a momentous struggle is now replaced with a new obstacle. But as these new obstacles come you will feel more confident and adept at handling them.
Parenthood is truly a journey not just for our kids, but for us as well. We are all constantly learning and growing and becoming more than we were yesterday.
In these hard moments where you feel like enough is enough, go easy on yourself. Extend grace to your children. Know that what you and your child are going through is temporary. It will get better. They will grow up.
And you will miss it. Not the hardship of being in the trenches, but you will miss how little your kids were. You will miss at times the way they depended on you. You will miss sleeping in and lazy mornings before school days took over your morning routine. You will miss singing the ABC’s and reading the same book ten times as they learn the fundamentals of language and reading. You will miss being able to walk to the park on a whim. You will miss getting together with your group of mom friends, who are all in the trenches with you.
Because sooner or later, it gets better…and they grow up. Life changes…and you will change too. You become stronger. More resilient. You learn patience. You learn compassion. You will learn to appreciate the little moments, because you know how quickly they will pass you by.
Moms in the trenches…keep fighting the good fight. It won’t be long before I see you on the other side.